So Andi and I were talking today about whether or not its good to know or not to know. When it comes down to it and you are faced with facts that can cause you pain or cause someone else pain, do you want to know or not? Some people go through their lives with their heads stuck in the sand like an ostrich and others actively seek out the truth like some twisted form of masochism.
So when it comes down to it, do you really want to know? I have always been a believer in "what you don't know won't hurt you" philosophy when it comes to other people's feelings. When it's personal, I usually want to know if it directly impacts me.
How do you know when to keep secrets from the people who are closest to? Is a secret a secret and they are all deceitful? Can they be acceptable if they are to keep from hurting someone's feelings? We all do things we regret and are ashamed of. But sometimes we do things that we don't regret but could hurt someone else. Cheating, lying, lying by omission. All these things can cause someone pain. So if you do one of these thing, then hide it from someone, are you being selfish or just trying to keep from hurting them?