I found is article on glamour.com. It was 8 Reasons to Enjoy Your Single Status. Insightful stuff. I thought it was funny because now that I am in a relationship I find that I definitely miss these things about being single.
#1. Your diet is your diet.
I am sick of Chinese food. I want to cook fish without him turning his nose up at me. There are so may things that I miss about cooking what I want. I have also given up one of my favorite restaurants because he doesn't like it. He drinks ALL my orange juice. I could go on about this for a while. You just never really know someone until you have to eat together every night.
#2. You can do errands without the dead weight.
I relish my "me time." So when I need to run my Saturday morning errands or my "Sunday after church grocery run," I want to go it alone. Sometimes it the only time that week I have to myself.
#3. You really get to know yourself.
This is true, but I will say one thing, I have learned a lot about myself since he moved in. But when you are alone, you aren't forced to do things you don't really like or interested in. You do things for you and you figure out what you want.
#4. You can be a good aunt.
I spent a lot of my time with my two year old nephew over the weekend and as soon as I left I missed him so much. I like that I can get to know him now and can focus on him. The baby was just born and now I get to spend time with both of them.
#5. You can develop talents and take up hobbies.
I keep saying I am going to write a book and learn to play the piano (again). I have all these things I want to do and sometimes I feel like he is dragging me down. Sometimes I feel obligated to do things he will like when I really want to do things I want.
#6. You actually get out of the house.
I think I might have gone out twice since he moved in. Once was with him. That's depressing. We don't really share a lot of interests and most of the time I want to go out with friends.
#7. You can travel.
I have all these places I wan to go and see. I plan all these vacations and look for places to go. I know it hurts his feelings that I want to go alone or with my friends. There are places I want to see for me.
#8. Loneliness hurts less.
It really does suck when you get used to having someone around all the time and still feel completely alone.
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Two words..."break up". lol, i know what you mean about some of those things though. The dynamics of the relationship completely change once you live together. "you can't live with them and you can't live without them."
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